Everyone encounters a problem or challenge in their marriage at some point. I know we have.
But where do you seek the answers and solutions to those problems? And more importantly, where do you turn first for guidance?
Do you talk to your friends or co-workers about how bad it is? Do you ask your parents for advice? Do you seek out a counselor?
During marriage troubles, we always want someone to give us the one “silver bullet” that will turn everything around or change our spouse so they “act right”.
In a Christian marriage, we should know where to turn first, but we easily fall into the same cycle as everyone else. We listen to friends, family, Dr. Phil, Oprah, preachers, or counselors. Sometimes these are people who can’t even make their own marriages work.
Just to be clear, I’m not making a blanket statement about these people being bad, for there are many Godly friends, family members, preachers, and counselors that give good Biblical advice. I’m saying that they shouldn’t be the first place to turn.
But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Matthew 6:33 (NKJV)
The first place we need to turn is to God. Not just a quick prayer asking God to “change my spouse Lord”, but turning the whole situation over to Him and seeking what He would have you to do in the situation.
But to be able to know what God wants you to do when you encounter marriage problems, you’ve got to spend time listening to what He’s saying.
How do you do that?
By reading His Word, the Bible. God, our Father, gave us an easy way to find out how to live…in every area of life, including marriage. He had it recorded, written down just so we could easily find out what He has to say to us.
God’s Word should then be the gauge to judge whether or not we’ll heed the advice or opinion of others we may listen to. If what someone else says doesn’t match up to what the Bible says, then don’t even consider that person’s suggestion.
So while I hope you gain some good information to implement into your marriage here at this site, don’t rely on me as your first stop for help. This site is a merely a resource to hopefully get you thinking about what God has said in the Bible and steer you in that direction. And as always gauge what I say against what God says.