5 Simple Ways to Invest into Your Marriage for Maximum ReturnseCourse

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5 Simple Ways to Invest into Your Marriage for Maximum Returns
By David Peairs
Author, “7 Keys to Unlocking Success in Your Marriage

Part 3: Watch your attitude.(Next time in Part 4, you’ll discover THE one word to kick out of your vocabulary, thereby leading to a more secure marriage. And now back to today’s lesson.)

The greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not our circumstances. – Martha Washington

“Attitude? I ain’t got no attitude.

My spouse…now they’ve got an attitude!”Some of you may be thinking that right now, but hear me out.

Does your marriage seem to be stuck in a rut, with seemingly no way out?

Well maybe it’s time to check your attitude at the door.

Attitude is an area that we could take all sorts of twists and turns, but I’m going to try to keep it on one track for this lesson.

To start off, here are some quick definitions of attitude from

– A position of the body or manner of carrying oneself.
– A state of mind or a feeling; disposition.
– An arrogant or hostile state of mind or disposition.

Think about your attitude around your home, your wife, your husband, your family. Don’t think about your spouse’s attitude, you really can’t do anything about that. Focus on yourself right now.

Are you the type that is always complaining about something?

Are you constantly negative in what you say around your family, either about them or your situations?

Are you a grumpy bear that stomps around the house and no one wants to be around?

Are you one that comes home and doesn’t say much of anything to anyone, acting as if everyone is bothersome to be around?

These are just a few of the MANY attitudes that could be affecting your marriage, your spouse, and your kids. And if you think THEY have an attitude, are they learning it from you?

Your attitude is not just the words you say, but how you say them and your body language. Many people don’t really realize the type of attitude they have. Some do and try to use it for their own gain.

Now you know, your attitude has a HUGE impact in your home. It can steer your marriage towards failure or towards success.

The good news is…you can change your attitude. It’s YOUR decision to make. Good attitude leading to good marriage or bad attitude leading to bad marriage?

I know you want to do whatever it takes to steer your marriage towards success, so here are some ways to start developing a good attitude.

1) Ask your spouse about your attitude.

Oh my, that’s a doozie. I know, I know…ask your spouse? That could open up a can of worms.

But you know what, it may just show them that you’re willing to change and contribute to an attitude change of their own. It could start a whole new level of honesty and communication in your marriage.

Now don’t have a bad attitude when you ask them about your attitude. Don’t ask “I don’t have an attitude do I?” with your hands on your hips and a sneer on your face. They won’t be very enthusiastic about being honest.

Sit down with your spouse (not after you’ve had a bad day or anything of that sort) and kindly ask them “honey, I’d like to work on my attitude. Would you give me your input on how I’ve acted in the past, so that I can change.” Then let them respond – without getting angry or upset over their answers.

2) Pray about it.

Now, take the information that you received from your spouse and pray about it. Get alone and ask God if there is any truth to what your spouse shared with you and what you can do to change it.

Really listen to what the Holy Spirit is putting on your heart. Now take that information and put it into practice.

To set you on the path to a better attitude, here are some things you can begin putting into practice today.

1. Be grateful.

Show gratitude towards your spouse. Thank them for all that they do. Husband, thank your wife for all that she does around the house. Wife, thank your husband for providing for the family.

Thank them when they do something for you. Be on the lookout for things that you can show them your appreciation for.

Probably more importantly, be grateful to God. Start thanking Him for what you DO have instead of complaining about what you DON’T have.

In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 (KJV)

2. Watch your words.

This could be a whole series in itself. But in regards to this lesson, quit saying every negative thing that comes to your mind. Start finding the good in things and speak those things.

Things as simple as:

This is a great day. That was a good meal. Wife, you’re beautiful. Husband, you’re caring. Kids, you’re smart.

3. Use God’s Word.

This is the day the LORD has made; We will rejoice and be glad in it.
Psalm 118:24 (NKJV)

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!
Philippians 4:4 (NIV)

Think of these scriptures when you wake up in the morning. Type them and tape them up where you can see them all of the time. I have some taped up by my bathroom mirror (can’t miss them if I want to look at myself:) and the other set is taped up right next to my computer (which I can see right now).

4. Smile.

This one is simple. Just start smiling. Now I don’t mean the kind of maniacal smile where others are scared that you know something they don’t…but a kind smile.

Smile when you get up in the morning. Smile at your spouse. Smile at your kids. Smile when you get home.

Never underestimate the power of a smile in someone’s life.

These are just a few things that you can start implementing right away.

To have a good attitude is your choice and nobody can make that decision for you. Until your attitude changes, your situation or your marriage isn’t going to change.

And if you are concerned with your spouse’s attitude, the good news is that once your attitude changes, it usually influences everyone else in the home.

Okay, that’s it for today.

Once you finish reading this email, pray that God will help you to have a good attitude and that it will be contagious, that it will spread to others.

God loves you and your spouse and He wants you to have a GREAT marriage.

REMEMBER…in the next part you’ll discover THE one word to kick out of your vocabulary, thereby leading to a more secure marriage.

Have a great day and see you next time for Part 4.

On to victory!

David Peairs

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